Have you ever been in the middle of a voluntary decision to pursue a challenging endeavor only to ask yourself “Why did I make this decision and why am I putting myself through this?” I am sure a vast majority of the population can cite with this example at least once in their life. Really the determining factor to one’s self growth lies not in the initial discomfort of new and challenging experiences but the continuation and appreciation of these testing times. Not giving up or letting your mind tell you to quit, because “this isn’t for me” or “I can’t do this.” While society proclaims praise and adornment for those of select physical, skin deep beauty, too much importance and obsession lies in this physical arena. People are losing themselves and their identity as mass media, social media and print media depict and determine what is important in society; physical beauty. We have a society obsessed with appearance, focusing on a trait and attribute well beyond their control and subjectively judged differently by each and every one of the 7.5 billion people on earth...let that settle in and resonate with you for a moment.
Imagine you see 100 people in a day and how subconsciously and automatically judgment, jealousy, praise, lust, disgust, curiosity, and comparison (the most damaging) creeps into your mind. This act is self defeating and only further deteriorates mental strength and self confidence. Not only is this obsession with physical beauty self defeating but those dealing with an addiction, death of a loved one, stress, illness, broken relationship and general life challenges can pursue a concrete and fulfilling natural remedy. A remedy absent of FDA testing and synthetic chemical compounds. A simple solution to a vast host of humanized problems and stresses. We spend far too much energy and time viewing ourselves through the reflection in the mirror and the reflection of others praise, disgust, or lack of response. Remember of those 100 people you see today each and everyone if going to think and judge you differently. Instead of working to praise these strangers, who will be absent in your life much longer than present, expel this energy into someone who day in and day out matter most in your life. No not your spouse, parents, children, closest friends, family or coworkers. A being closest and so near and dear to your heart, always with you and codependent to your life on this physical world.
Work, without rest and above all on yourself. That beautiful and complex organism sitting between your ears. A weak mind, tormented day in and day by the pressures of our synthetic society, will fail, as physical beauty itself is both subjective and self decaying. A strong mind however will triumph in the face of adversity, with mental fortitude and strength the precursor to a health, happy, and fulfilling life. You might be wondering the simplest way to build and strengthen our mind? Be with yourself in silence each and everyday, absent of distractions or obligations. Learn to meditate to calm your overactive and impressionable mind.
There are many forms of meditation ranging from 10 minutes a day to a longer more disciplined practice in which you spend multiple hours, every day, exercising your brain. In the next segment I will describe an experience Rachelle and I underwent in Auckland, New Zealand, which we spent 10 days in complete silence, absent of physical distractions, to more deeply understand and build the organism between our ears.